Reluctantly Related

Secrets to Getting Along with Your Mother-in-Law or Daughter-in-Law

by Deanna Brann

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At last, Reluctantly Related: Secrets to Getting Along with Your Mother-in-Law or Daughter-in-Lawgives us the definitive work on the all too common family dilemma of stressful relationships between mothers-in-law (MILs) and daughters-in law (DILs).

In-law relationship expert Dr. Deanna Brann delivers an insightful, stimulating guide for determining the root causes of mother-in-law/daughter-in-law difficulties and more importantly, provides the situation-specific, practical tools to change things for the better.

Though dealing with this often difficult or even painful subject, Reluctantly Related is engaging and wonderfully readable with its extensive use of real conversational examples and light-hearted cartoons featuring Dr. Brann’s witty collection of mother-in-law, daughter-in-law and husband/son characters.

There has never been such an entertaining yet helpful resource on the specific problems between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law. Reluctantly Related provides unique, straightforward help to any “MIL/DIL challenged” family, and should be required reading for newlyweds and their mothers!


With more than 25 years of experience in the mental health field, licensed clinical psychotherapist Deanna Brann specializes in communication skills, interpersonal relationships, and conflict resolution. So when her relationship with her own daughter-in-law began a dizzyingly downward spiral after the birth of her first grandchild, no one could have been more shocked than she was. The typical mother-in-law/daughter-in-law relationship, she soon realized, involves several unique twists and turns that she didn’t see coming and was ill equipped to deal with—even as a psychotherapist!

Committed to exploring the nuances of mother-in-law/daughter-in-law dynamics, Dr. Brann began to conduct extensive qualitative research and discovered she was hardly alone in having such challenges. As a result of the behavioral patterns she identified, the different kinds of mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law she found, and the tools she developed to navigate these specific individuals with skill and grace, Dr. Brann discovered a way for both mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law to peacefully coexist. Not only has she transformed her own relationship with her daughter-in-law, but Dr. Brann has also helped countless other in-laws stop the cycle of frustration, anxiety, and anger they so often find themselves trapped inside. As she shares in Reluctantly Related: Secrets to Getting Along With Your Mother-in-Law or Daughter-in-Law, these women are able to grow more comfortable with—and sometimes even close to—each other in ways they never before imagined.

Dr. Brann holds a Master of Science degree in clinical psychology and a Ph.D. in psychobiological anthropology—and she’s been a mother-in-law for more than 17 years and a daughter-in-law for more than 15. Through her various Skills DVDs and downloads, one-on-one consultations and coaching, as well as her in-depth tele-seminars and live events, she teaches mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law the techniques for shifting their thinking to a new level, inspiring powerful insights that help them change their in-law relationship for the better—forever. Dr. Brann is also the author of a cartoon book: Mothers-in-Law and Daughters-in-Law Say the Darndest Things! Further, she is a nationally known speaker on the subject of mother-in-law/daughter-in-law relationships.